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Welcome to this week’s edition of notes on hosting “Valentine,” a 10-year-old orphan from Eastern Europe.  The end is getting nearer; we have one more week of “normal” before we leave on our family vacation that will culminate in taking Valentine to the airport to fly back to his country.  Two of the photos are not actually from this past week. They are from the beach trip my friend organized a couple weeks ago (Take 4 here), but I just got the pictures from her.

  1.  Probably the most exciting thing this week was flying kites.  I’m a little disappointed that I missed it; Don took the boys to a park while I stayed home with a napping Clara.  Normally I’m all about having that kind of break, but I bought a kite for Simon in the spring and two more kites (for Peter and Valentine) before Valentine arrived and we still hadn’t flown them (due to a combination of the weather and being busy with other things).IMG_8801 small
  2. Valentine is getting better at playing card games.  He first learned to play Uno; the last thing he had to get the hang of (which I think he has figured out now) is that he should pick a color of a card in his hand when playing a wild card (more than once, he named a color that no one else had and it would go around to him and he wouldn’t have one either).  We have recently started playing one of the simpler variations of Aquarius.  He understands the game but isn’t a particularly strategic player.  He totally has the hang of Go Fish, which we play with phonics flash cards (matching uppercase and lowercase letters).  When he first came, he was a very sore loser.  We have emphasized and demonstrated good sportsmanship and he has shown improvement.
  3. Valentine continues to clown around a lot.  I think that his acting silly is a behavior that has been reinforced by living in an orphanage; if he can make his peers laugh, that gives him status.  Sometimes he is funny but sometimes it gets annoying.  Lately, he and Simon have been fond of the words “stupid,” “stinky,” and “caca” and their reactions to each other are motivating them to keep using them, despite Don’s and my attempts to discourage them.

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    What are pool noodles for?  Battling, of course!

  4. Eating, for Valentine, is a purely utilitarian activity.  He doesn’t seem to have the concept of sitting down and enjoying a meal and the company of the family.  He would eat every meal standing up in about five minutes, then clear his place and be on his way, if we let him.
  5. Another sound that Valentine has difficulty pronouncing is /i/ (the short “i” sound).  (Take 5 of my hosting report #5 noted that hard /th/ sound (like “this”) and /w/ (“wow!”) are challenging for him.)  He mostly pronounces it as /ee/, like “seet” instead of “sit.”  However, the word “stinky” comes out as “stanky,” which brings back memories of my years teaching at a high school in inner-city Detroit–there was a dance that was popular among my students at the time called “the Stanky Legg.”Hancock Beach
  6. I was impressed with how Valentine used his English to tell a story.  Our cat, Malou, caught a chipmunk.  He dropped it on the grass and it lay limp for several minutes, but then ran off.  Valentine witnessed it and reported to Don, “Malou eat chipmunk.  Chipmunk no I’m dead.  Chipmunk bye-bye.”
  7. Valentine is starting to apply his knowledge of phonics to try to spell words in English.  He has written simple words like “Mom,” “Dad,” and “bug” when he was playing around with the little whiteboard that we use for lessons.  Then he drew some superheroes and labelled them “Spoyderman” and “Bet Man.”  (Vowels are the hardest for him to identify in English.)  He came to me when he wanted to know how to write /oo/ for “Superman.”  I was proud of how well he sounded them out all by himself.

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Here is the latest edition of notes on hosting “Valentine,” the 10-year-old orphan from Eastern Europe that my family is hosting this summer.  I’m sorry, but I didn’t take many photos this week and most of the pictures I took show Valentine’s face, so there’s only one to share.

  1. It’s been a busy week but mostly for boring reasons.  Trips have included the campus police station (to get paperwork notarized), the post office, the health department, the local school district’s homeschool partnership program office, and the library.  Even when we were home, I was preoccupied with paperwork.  It hasn’t been the most fun week, but important stuff has gotten done, including all the registration forms for Peter and Simon for next school year and the application for Clara’s certificate of Canadian citizenship.
  2. The most exciting thing that happened this week was that my parents came for a short visit.  They arrived Sunday evening and left Tuesday morning, so we mainly had Monday to spend with them.  It was a particularly hot day—it was in the 80’s (F).  I know that’s not very hot for most of the country, but it is for around here, and we don’t have air conditioning in our house.  We can generally keep our house comfortable in the summer by opening the windows to let in cool air at night and closing them in the morning to keep the cool air in.  However, my dad is allergic to cats, so he tries to spend as little time as possible in our house.  We spent most of the day hanging out on the porch, with some time spent in the RV (which is our summertime guest bedroom).  Valentine and Simon ran through the sprinkler, had a water fight, and showed off their bike-riding skills.  My mom read a book to Valentine and then he read to her.  He also pulled out the toy clock and demonstrated his time-telling skills (he can tell time to the hour and half-hour now).  My dad played checkers with Valentine and commented that he has obviously played before.  In the evening, we went to a nearby waterfall.  It would have been nice if my parents had stayed longer, but I understood my dad’s desire to get home.  He had been on a motorcycle trip from lower Michigan to Alaska (he made it to the Arctic Circle) and back since before Valentine arrived in the United States.  My mom drove up to meet him as she stayed home and thus hadn’t seen him in a month and a half.
  3. Valentine claimed us as his parents.  Before my parents arrived, I explained to him that they were coming and who they were, my mom and my dad.  He then said, “This my mom” and hugged me, and said, “This my dad” and pointed upstairs to where Don was.  I agreed with him.  What else was I supposed to say?
  4. Valentine got to add “snake” to the long list of animals he has seen here.  Apparently there was a snake on the seat of his bike; I didn’t see it.  However, I did see a snake on our front porch later that day, and then Malou, our cat, got out of the house when my parents were here and met up with a snake not far from our porch.  There was a long and entertaining battle between them (it was a pretty small snake—we weren’t worried that it would hurt the cat).  The kids declared that Malou killed the snake, but they were wrong.  In the end, it got away.IMG_8773 small
  5. Valentine continues to learn new things all the time.  Lately, one of our focuses has been on saying “I am hot” or “I am cold” rather than “me hot” or “me cold.”  It doesn’t help that Simon has taken to imitating Valentine’s incorrect grammar to communicate with him, saying things like “me book” and “bike no.”  In our lessons, Valentine has made it through book eight of level one of Little Stories for Little Folks (there are fifteen books in level one).  He can read sentences like, “It is cool in Ann’s room.”  He enjoys being read to; I’m still reading easy readers to him.  He sometimes looks at pictures in books in his free time.  He’s still not 100% with the names for numbers up to twelve (he often calls 8 “eleven”), but he’s getting there.  He is working on counting by 5’s to 100 using a hundreds board as a visual aid; he’s a little shaky on the names for 15, 20, and 30 but has improved a lot on the others.  He can read time to the hour and half-hour on an analog clock and has been introduced to telling time to 5 minutes.  I have been making a point to tell him that things will happen at specific times (like, “You can eat a snack at 3 o’clock” or “TV off at 4:30”) and to ask him what time it is when I see that it’s on the hour or half-hour so that he can start getting a sense for what happens at different times during the day.  I’ve just introduced the digital clock way of showing time.  He is working on writing English letters when I say the most common sound for the letter (a precursor skill to spelling); he is able to write maybe 80% of them without help.
  6. The end is coming.  When I flipped the calendar on our kitchen wall to the August page, Valentine pointed to the 29th and said, “Me bye-bye.”  I was surprised that he remembered the exact date that he is leaving; it was several weeks ago that I showed him.
  7. We have about two more weeks of “normal” before things get crazy.  Valentine has to be at JFK airport in New York City on the 29th to fly back to his country.  We decided to go on a family trip and take him there; we will be taking our RV.  Don has been excitedly researching attractions and planning a route.  I am mostly trying to ignore the fact that our departure date is getting closer because I am really not looking forward to the trip.  Our test voyage before we picked Valentine up convinced me that travelling in the RV with Clara is very challenging.  She did not sleep well away from home and I basically had to hold her the whole time she was awake.  Plus, in general, I find that after about a week of vacation, I’m ready to go home, but Don’s current schedule has us gone for almost two weeks.  I’m sure there will be some fun and memorable moments on the trip; I just hope they are worth the amount of stress I will experience to make them happen.

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How time flies!  It seems like it’s only been a few days since I wrote my last update on hosting “Valentine” (not his real name), a 10-year-old orphan from Eastern Europe, but another week has passed.  Bonus–lots of pictures this week!

  1. We celebrated Clara’s first birthday.  My in-laws came to visit for the occasion.  My mother-in-law, who used to own a patisserie and makes amazing cakes, made a giant cupcake.  She also made regular cupcakes and let Valentine and Simon decorate them, which they enjoyed.IMG_8700 small
  2. While my in-laws were in town, we went out to eat at a sit-down restaurant for the first time with Valentine.  It was not a particularly successful experience.  First, the menu overwhelmed him.  I knew better than to try to give him all the options, so I just picked a few things for him to choose from.  He didn’t have much trouble choosing a hamburger, but he had a meltdown when I asked him to choose a side.  I ended up taking him out of the main part of the restaurant to an area that was quieter and not full of people.  I went through the six options for sides using Google Translate, but he did not want to choose.  I went through them again and he started crying.  He did not want to choose.  I refused to choose for him, so I picked two that he had seemed interested in (corn and mashed potatoes) and asked him to choose from them.  He still didn’t want to choose.  I rubbed his back and reassured him, but I insisted that he choose.  Finally he made a decision—corn.  (We go through this at home sometimes also.  He’ll say, “I don’t know eat” and shrug his shoulders.  I might suggest a couple things he could eat, but I won’t just tell him what to eat.  I suspect he doesn’t get to make decisions about what to eat, or many other things, in the orphanage.  I know it’s hard, but I think it’s important for him to practice making decisions, and what to eat seems like a good place to start since it concerns him personally.)  Then, after all the stress of choosing his food, he was not very patient in waiting for it to arrive.  I ended up taking him, Simon, and Clara outside until our food was ready.  He enjoyed his food when it came, but on the whole, it was not a great experience for him.IMG_8517 small
  3. Don, my in-laws, and the boys took a day trip to explore the natural beauty of the Upper Peninsula.  They did some hiking in the Porcupine Mountains and visited some beautiful waterfalls.  We had written in our welcome letter to Valentine that we would visit waterfalls, so he had been looking forward to that.  I stayed home with Clara; it was easier than carrying her around all day and messing up her nap schedule.IMG_8602 small
  4. A friend of mine organized a wonderful outing for the boys in support of our hosting experience (though Simon decided at the last minute to stay home with me).  She picked them up in the morning and took them to the beach, where they had fun with her kids and those of another friend.  I came in the late morning with Clara and Simon, after Clara woke up from her morning nap.  The two other moms brought a picnic lunch for everyone and the mom who organized it treated the boys to ice cream.  I appreciate her putting that together so the boys could spend the whole morning at the beach; with Clara still napping twice a day, I can’t take them out anywhere for long periods of time.IMG_8617 small
  5. Valentine had his dentist appointment for his filling.  It was quick and easy and they didn’t have to numb his mouth.  I had prepared him ahead of time for having to have a shot, so he was relieved that he didn’t have to have one.  His comment afterwards was, “No ouch!”IMG_8627 small
  6. Valentine has a knack for injuring himself.  We’ve taken to bringing a first aid kit with us when we go on outings and we’ve had to use it more than once for cuts and scrapes.  For weeks after he got here, he would slip and fall on our kitchen floor; I wondered if he was used to wearing shoes all the time and found it slippery to walk around in socks (I tried asking through Google Translate but didn’t get a clear answer).  He falls on his bike frequently (which is understandable as bike riding is a new skill for him).  He smashed his finger with a rock when he was trying to bang it on another rock and now has a big bruise under his fingernail.  I don’t know if he’s just naturally clumsy or if he lacks the kind of judgment that comes from having a wide variety of experiences.IMG_8752 small (1)
  7. Valentine’s bike riding skills have progressed considerably in the past week.  On Sunday, Don took Valentine and Simon to a small park to practice riding on paved trails.  Yesterday, I dropped off the three boys in town and let them ride their bikes on a riverside bike path to a local park.  I met them there and we had a picnic lunch.  Valentine told Don and me through Google Translate that riding a bike has become easy for him.  We told him how proud we are that he kept trying and didn’t give up.  This is a real accomplishment for him.

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“Valentine,” the 10-year-old orphan from Eastern Europe that we are hosting this summer, has been with us for a month now and has a little more than a month left in his stay.  Here is this week’s update:

  1.  Last Saturday, Valentine and Simon participated in a kids fun run that was part of a larger local run/walk event.  They ran a quarter mile down a closed-off street to the finish line; the starts were staggered by age so the little kids wouldn’t get trampled.  All the kids who participated got a medal; Valentine was very proud of his.
  2. On Sunday, we visited an Orthodox church.  Valentine’s religious background is Orthodox, and we actually have a little Orthodox monastery and mission church in our area, so I wanted to give him the experience of something somewhat familiar.  The service was in English, so he couldn’t understand it, but the church was richly decorated and the rituals were interesting to watch.  I had contacted the hieromonk in advance.  He arranged for a parishioner who speaks Valentine’s language to meet with him and us before the service.  She translated for him and Valentine, then he took Valentine to a part of the church where we could see them but not hear them and had Valentine make his confession.  He gave Valentine communion during the service; none of the other people in the congregation took communion, just the monks and what I would call the altar servers, so that was something special.  Afterwards, we were invited to join the monks and some of the parishioners for a meal in the rectory.  We had cabbage soup and rolls, followed by cake and ice cream (the dessert was in honor of the woman who had translated for Valentine; she was returning to her home country after visiting here for a year).  On the whole, it was a very interesting experience to observe the service and note the aspects that were familiar and those that were different from what I’m used to.  Several aspects of the service reminded me of things I have learned about the history of the Catholic church, like the parishioners not taking communion every week and the priest facing away from the congregation when he was praying at the altar.
  3. Simon and Valentine went to the eye doctor on Monday.  I was proud that Valentine had learned the English alphabet well enough to read the letters on the eye charts (saying the sounds rather than the letter names, because I teach the sounds first).  The verdict was that he doesn’t need glasses.  I am grateful to the optometrist for donating his services for the exam; he would have also donated a pair of glasses if Valentine had needed them.

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    Playing in the sprinkler when we couldn’t make it to the beach.

  4. We finally made it to the beach on Wednesday.  Unfortunately, we were only there for an hour, including the time it took to eat our picnic lunch, because we had to get Clara back home for her afternoon nap.  Having a baby who still naps twice a day means we’ve been getting out less than in previous summers.  Valentine has been wanting to go to the beach and I’ve been looking for a good day for weeks, but we’ve had a lot of lousy weather and it seems like we had somewhere else we had to go every day that was nice enough.
  5. Valentine’s English is improving.  He uses two-word phrases and the occasional three-word phrase, such as, “I like,” “Good-bye, house,” “my nose,” “three motorcycle,” “baby apple,” “big truck,” and “spider eat bug.”  When my in-laws arrived yesterday with their fluffy little dog, our cat was scared and jumped onto a high ledge to get away from it.  That inspired Valentine’s longest utterance in English yet, “Look, Mom!  Cat sit, is looking dog.”  We’ve been practicing the pronunciation of the hard /th/ sound (like “this”) and /w/ (“wow!”) because they are challenging for him.

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    More sprinkler fun.

  6. Valentine is still learning some American habits.  I’ve had to remind him to put toilet paper in the toilet and flush it (in his country, it is usually put in the garbage, not flushed).  I also have to remind him to put on clean clothes every day; in the morning, he will often change from his pajamas into the clothes he was wearing the previous day.  I’m guessing that in the orphanage, the kids wear their clothes several times between washings to save on laundry.
  7. Valentine is still working on learning to ride a bike.  Don put one training wheel on his bike to help him out, and he’s making progress.  Yesterday I saw him ride maybe 20 feet before he lost his balance.

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Here is the fourth installment of my reports on orphan hosting this summer.  If you’re just joining us, we are hosting 10-year-old “Valentine” (not his real name) from Eastern Europe.

  1.  On the whole, things are going well.  The house isn’t a total disaster, everyone has clean clothes and bathes at least semi-regularly, we’re eating well, the dishes get washed, the boys are doing at least a few academic-type things to keep their minds from atrophying, they’re doing chores daily, and we’re getting out and taking advantage of the natural beauty of this area and some of the local events.  I’m pulling off this “taking care of four kids” thing (although Peter is gone to Boy Scout camp this week, so it’s only been three kids, but it hasn’t been much of a break because Don has had to work late three days this week).
  2. Speaking of bedtime, that’s the one area that continues to be a challenge.  We were finally back on track after the fireworks threw us off, then Peter left for camp.  Valentine doesn’t like to be alone at night, so we decided to move Simon to sleep on the bunk bed with Valentine.  It went well the first night, but the second night they keep each other up until I finally sent Simon to his own room at a quarter past ten.  Then I had to do bedtime by myself the next night (I usually put Clara and Simon to bed and Don usually takes care of Valentine and Peter).  With Valentine missing Peter and Don, it didn’t go well.  On top of trying to comfort Valentine, Simon wouldn’t go to sleep, so I had to keep dealing with him.  Valentine has adopted one of Peter’s stuffed animals, a husky dog that he has named Rex, and he sleeps with it.  He really doesn’t want the bedroom door to be closed, but he’s been doing okay sleeping by himself with the door open.  By the time all the kids are in bed asleep, I am worn out, but I need some down time without kids, so I keep going to bed later than I should.

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    We visited a nearby wetland this week.  Here are the boys, who just happened to all be wearing blue shirts.

  3. While Valentine is basically well-behaved, we have seen a lot of whining, begging, pouting, and sulking lately when he doesn’t get what he wants.  I am trying to be loving but also set firm limits, or as Gordon Neufeld writes, I’m trying to be “both an agent of futility and an angel of comfort.”  He has to do lessons and chores before he can play on the Wii.  If his Wii time is over for the day, he doesn’t get another turn, no matter how many times he asks, “Play tv?  Please, Mom?  Please?”  I am now enforcing no snacks in the morning and only one snack in the afternoon and before bed, because his snacking was getting out of hand.  I don’t buy him candy from the check-out line at the grocery store and he can look at the arcade games but not play them.  In short, I’m treating him the same way I treat my kids.  One of the goals of the hosting program is for kids who live in an institution to experience family life, and I’ve embraced that.  I’m not the magic summer vacation fairy, I’m a mom.  That’s what he needs, even if it’s not always what he wants.
  4. We do try to remember that the way we experience or understand things may not be the way he perceives them.  A simple example is his shirts.  He’s wearing hand-me-downs from Peter, so his shirts are familiar to us.  It’s even a little heart-warming to see him wearing things that bring back good memories.  However, they don’t mean the same to him.  He doesn’t even understand the words written on them.  How would you feel wearing a shirt that had something written on it in a foreign alphabet, not knowing what it said?

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    Valentine and Simon checking out the pond

  5. In general, I am not a fan of easy readers.  I think they have a place for children who are learning to read, but I don’t think they should be read aloud to children.  Read-aloud books should expose children to rich and varied language, language that they can’t read for themselves.  However, easy readers are just right for reading to Valentine right now, with his limited knowledge of English.  Simple vocabulary and sentence structures and lots of repetition are just what he needs to understand and enjoy listening to stories.  As mind-numbing as I find “I do not like them in a house.  I do not like them with a mouse”, I will read Green Eggs and Ham enthusiastically, five days in a row, for Valentine’s benefit.
  6. We went to the dentist on Tuesday.  First I had my teeth cleaned and checked, then Simon had his done, and then it was Valentine’s turn.  He did great; he was very cooperative and thanked the hygienist when she was done.  He picked out a toothbrush with pictures of fruit on the handle (very appropriate, considering how much fruit he eats), a sticker, and sticky stretchy hand thing (a little toy).  I’ve heard multiple stories of children hosted or adopted from his country needing major dental work, and he told me through Google Translate when I asked that he doesn’t go to the dentist in his country, so it was great news to hear that he only needs one filling.  I scheduled it for later this month.  I am grateful to our dentist for donating his services to help Valentine.

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    Clara and me

  7. On Sunday, I asked Valentine about his friends in his country.  He said he had one friend, “Stephen” (not his real name), but Stephen is now living in America.  I asked if Stephen was living in America for the summer or for always, and Valentine said for always.  I sent a couple e-mails and less than 24 hours later, Valentine and Stephen were talking on the phone.  It was quite the surprise for Valentine–he was so excited!  Stephen and his brothers were adopted last September and I’m sure Valentine thought he would never see or hear from his friend again.  I’m glad I was able to do that for him.  We hope to get the two friends together on Skype one of these days so they can talk face-to-face.

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We picked up Valentine (the 10-year-old orphan from Eastern Europe we’re hosting for the summer, not his real name) from the airport on Tuesday afternoon, on our way back from a two-night trip to Ontario in our RV. It was Clara’s first trip in the RV, and unfortunately, she was not a happy camper.  She had a hard time going to sleep in a strange place, so her nap schedule and bedtime were completely disrupted.  There wasn’t enough space in the RV for her porta-crib, so we put her on the big bed between Don and me.  We don’t normally co-sleep, so that made it harder for us to get a good night’s rest.  All this to say, I was not exactly well-rested when we picked up Valentine, and when we got home we had all the unpacking and laundry and stuff to do from coming home from a trip.  It was not the ideal situation, but with everything else going on, it was the only time we could squeeze in a trip to Canada before Valentine came (he’s not allowed to leave the United States while he’s with us; he has a single-entry visa).

2.  Although I would have liked to have taken a day off to get caught up, I figured it would be best to jump right into our summer weekday routine to set appropriate expectations for all the boys. Thus we started “summer lessons” on Wednesday.  During Clara’s morning nap, we had “together time” with a song, a prayer, a short Bible story, and a nursery rhyme (it’s quick—I don’t want to bore Valentine because I know he doesn’t understand most of it).  Then Peter and Simon went to another room and Peter read the first chapter of A Bear Called Paddington out loud to Simon.  Meanwhile, I read Where Is the Green Sheep? to Valentine, pointing and using gestures to clarify the important vocabulary words.  He laughed at some of the pictures.  After that, I introduced the first two phonics flash cards and he practiced the sounds, then I showed him how to write the letters and he practiced writing them.  I had debated whether or not to work on reading with him; I think improving his oral English is more important, but for a small investment of time, I think it’s worth building a foundation for reading in English.  That was it for lessons for the day for Valentine; Peter and Simon had a couple other things to do, but everything was done before Clara woke up from her nap except for Peter’s saxophone practice.  Yesterday was much the same; we re-read Where Is the Green Sheep?, reviewed Wednesday’s phonics flash cards and added the next two, and practiced writing the new letters along with a review of the first two.  I also taught the subject pronouns “I” and “you” and used a PowerPoint presentation with eye-catching photos (adapted from one that I made when I was a French teacher) to introduce ten useful verbs.  We had fun acting out “I eat”, “you drink”, “I play”, and others.

3.  On Wednesday, I made a point to stay home during the day to give Valentine time to settle in. He had fun playing with our toys (we have lots of toys!).  His favorites so far seem to be the Nerf guns and the Hexbugs.  After dinner, we went for a walk to a nearby lake.  On the way, we saw a turtle laying eggs.  We also found several holes littered with empty turtle eggs and a turtle that had been run over.  Valentine found a frog and we saw a fish that someone had just caught.  We were buzzed by innumerable dragonflies.  Valentine’s orphanage is in a city, so he probably hasn’t had many opportunities to experience nature like this.

4.  Yesterday, I took Valentine shopping. We were told to expect him to bring little or no clothing besides what he was wearing.  He actually brought a backpack with more than we expected, though still not much.  Fortunately, we are able to mostly outfit him with hand-me-downs from Peter.  A friend generously gave us $100 to purchase the clothing items he still needed, along with other things.  We bought underwear, socks, shoes (he came wearing sandals), and a matching swimsuit/swim shirt set.  I gave him 3-4 choices for each item and he enjoyed picking which color/design.  He asked me (through pointing and making begging/praying hands) for a Lego set, a fidget spinner, and candy in the check-out lane, but didn’t seem upset when I said no.  Our hosting organization stresses the importance of not spoiling the kids during their first week so as not to set up an expectation for the rest of the hosting period.  Besides that, because he’s limited to an airplane carry-on in what he can take back with him (and is expected to return with the clothes he brought), we’re planning to focus on giving him experiences rather than “stuff.”

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5.  Communication is limited, but we’re getting by. My cheat-sheet definitely helps.  The visual display I made for the morning routine (eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth, etc) is handy—I can just point to a picture instead of trying to pantomime everything, and I saw Valentine looking at it on his own to remind himself what to do.  Google Translate has been useful for things that are harder to act out (like, “You can play outside when you want, but tell me before you go and don’t go beyond the white fence.”)  Unfortunately, our internet has been excruciatingly slow for the last couple days, which makes Google Translate hard to use.  The boys are getting along well; you don’t need language to make funny faces, poke someone, steal their pillow, shoot Nerf guns, clown around, play tag, race toy cars, or lots of other things that boys like to do.

6.  We set Valentine up on our Wii; Peter helped him make a Mii and we registered him on Wii Fit Plus. That was my surreptitious way of finding out his height and weight.  I looked them up on a CDC growth chart; his height would be at the 50th percentile for a boy who is about 8 years and 3 months old.  I’ve heard from a few different people that the kids from the orphanages in his country tend to be about the size of American kids who are two years younger; Valentine is 10 years old so that seems accurate.

7.  After three biological kids and a developmentally delayed 3-year-old foster child, it’s kind of nice to welcome a child to the family who is already potty-trained.  🙂

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It’s hard to believe that Peter finished school just a week from yesterday.  We’ve had things going on pretty much non-stop since then.  He left on a Boy Scout camping trip that night and was gone until Sunday.  Both boys went to Totus Tuus (the Catholic version of vacation Bible school) this past week.  However, there were different shifts for younger and older kids.  Simon went during the day and Peter went in the evenings, which meant four trips a day into town for drop-offs and pick-ups, not counting trips into town for other reasons (grocery shopping, library, immunizations for Peter).  Don was super busy and stressed as he was preparing for a major work event Thursday night, so I did most of the driving.  Poor Clara had to have her nap schedule shifted around because of it and didn’t get as much of my attention as usual.  Wednesday night was a Totus Tuus potluck, which was fun but meant that Simon and Clara were up past their usual bedtimes (and Simon was already tired from all the stimulation of day camp).  Thursday night was Don’s work event; the kids and I made an appearance there before I had to drop off Peter at Totus Tuus and get Simon and Clara home and to bed.  Yesterday (Friday), my dad arrived in the late afternoon.  He is riding his motorcycle to Alaska; yesterday was the second day of his journey, as he started in southeastern Michigan.  Today we hung out with him and did some repairs on our RV; we’re leaving tomorrow for a short trip and my dad will be heading off in the opposite direction.  I would rather stay home and relax for a couple days instead before “Valentine” (the orphan we’re hosting this summer, not his real name) arrives on Tuesday, but Valentine can’t leave the United States while he is with us, so we’re taking a quick trip to Canada while we can.  We’ll be picking Valentine up from the airport on our way back home.  I can imagine that it will blow his mind to be picked up from the airport in an RV.  I did say in the welcome letter I wrote to him (which one of Don’s colleagues helped translate into Russian and which he will receive tomorrow) that it’s a two-hour drive from the airport to our house, and I showed our house in the video I made for him, so he should understand that we don’t live in the RV, but I’m sure it will still be somewhat shocking.

I plan to share the hosting experience here on my blog.  Realistically, though, it’s hard enough to find time to blog now, and I’m sure I’ll be even more tired when I have another child–and one who speaks little English and is not used to living in a family setting–to take care of.  So I’m not making any promises as to the frequency of blog posts or the level of detail that will be forthcoming.

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